In-Person or Virtual options available.
now accepting new Clients
(503) 841-2142
In-person or Virtual Options are Available | Now Accepting New Clients
(503) 841-2142
Marriage, Couples, and Premarital Counseling:
$140.00-200.00/ Session
Payment is required at the beginning of each session, unless special arrangements are made in advance.
Counseling Rates
You might be asking, 'How can marriage counseling help? Is it too late for us?' The truth is, it’s never too late to seek support. The number one reason couples reach out is to fix broken communication—whether it’s been a challenge from the start or has unraveled over time.
Fixing communication isn’t impossible. In our sessions, I’ll teach you specific tools like taking timeouts, stating your needs and emotions assertively, and finding compromises that leave both partners feeling heard and understood. Using evidence-based techniques from the Gottman Institute, Prepare and Enrich, and my own tailored patterns developed through years of working with couples, I help you break the cycle of frustration.
Many couples get stuck in what I call 'venting and fixing' patterns. One partner just wants to vent, while the other instinctively tries to solve the problem. This disconnect leaves both feeling unheard. Together, we’ll develop empathy skills so you can truly listen, connect, and rebuild the trust and understanding your relationship deserves.
Marriages can be mended and repaired. Let’s work together to strengthen your bond, rediscover your connection, and create the relationship you both want. With marriage counseling in Tigard, you don’t have to face this alone—we’ll take it one step at a time, together.
Rebuilding Communication, Trust, and Connection
Break Free from Exhaustion with Marriage Counseling
Feeling unheard, disconnected, or overwhelmed in your relationship? You’re not alone and it’s okay to seek help. After all, taking the first step is often the hardest. At Pillars of Hope Counseling, Angelie understands how heavy the weight of your struggles can feel, and she’s here to help you find the path back to when you first had that spark with your loved one.
Proudly Serving Tigard, Lake Oswego, and the Greater Portland Area
Find Hope and Healing with Personalized Marriage Counseling
“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.”
—Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
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Typical session length is 50 minutes. Pillars of Hope Counseling also offers 90 minute sessions for couples who may need longer times. Family sessions are 90 minutes.
Rates
- Inability to communicate, leading to frustration and anger.
- Needing tools to feel heard and understood.
- Constant fighting, creating a miserable home environment.
- Navigating the pain of an affair and rebuilding trust.
- Addressing sexual concerns that affect intimacy.
- Learning effective tools for better parenting together.
- Exploring and healing long-held wounds.
- Developing problem-solving skills for life’s challenges.
- Finding help to navigate complex extended family dynamics.
Common Reasons Couples Seek Marriage Counseling
If you’ve been struggling to find a way forward, you’re not alone. Many couples reach out for marriage counseling because they’ve realized that staying stuck isn’t an option. It takes courage to seek help, and that courage can be the first step toward healing and growth.
Finding Support When You Need It Most
Why Couples Turn to Marriage Counseling
Emotional and physical affairs often start innocently—just casual conversations or harmless messages—until they slowly cross a boundary. If you’re the injured partner, the pain, anger, and confusion may feel insurmountable. If you’ve been unfaithful, you may feel overwhelmed by guilt, unsure how to make things right or even where to start.
Rebuilding trust is a hard road to walk alone. It takes care, compassion, and guidance from someone who truly understands what it takes to heal. With over 60% of couples I work with navigating the fallout of infidelity, I know how emotionally charged this journey can be—for both the injured and the injurer.
- Understand what led to the betrayal.
- Unpack and address the feelings of both partners.
- Develop an open, honest, specific, and transparent approach to rebuild trust.
Marriage Counseling Offers a Safe, Nonjudgmental Space
Navigating the Pain of Infidelity with Compassion and Support
Healing After Betrayal: Rebuilding Trust and Connection
- Reduce conflict and restore peace in your home.
- Open the flow of communication to deepen connection.
- Work through life’s changes together as a team.
- Solve ongoing problems that feel overwhelming.
- Decide what truly matters in your marriage and focus on it.
- Learn to share your feelings openly and without fear.
- Give and receive compassion in meaningful ways.
- Practice empathy to better understand your partner’s needs.
- Heal past wounds and rebuild trust.
- Rediscover love, romance, and emotional intimacy.
- Overcome challenges like infidelity and build a new identity as a couple.
- Create a safe space to hear and be heard.
The Benefits of Marriage Counseling: What You’ll Gain
Ongoing conflict doesn’t just create tension—it creates marital unrest that ripples into every part of your life, affecting your family, your peace, and your happiness. It’s normal to worry about whether a therapist might take sides or judge your situation, but the truth is, our role is to guide—not decide. Together, we’ll get the conversation flowing in ways that feel productive and respectful, laying the groundwork for meaningful change.
Ignoring the signs of an unhealthy relationship can lead to frustration and anger, pushing you further apart. But with the right tools and a commitment to understanding, you can create a partnership where both joy and sadness are shared freely, and conflicts are handled with care instead of avoidance.
Building a Stronger, Healthier Relationship
The Transformative Power of Marriage Counseling
Creating life and a lifestyle together after career ends. Making sure each partner’s dreams are being actively pursued.
Retirement Stage
Planning and caring for children. Learning how to balance work, family, and life situations. Dealing with aging parents.
Life Building Stage
Focuses on learning needs and wants. Trying to fit into their partner’s family. Balancing self-care with a couple's time. Learning spouse’s love language.
Get going stage
Focuses on reconnecting after the children grow up and leave the house. Adjusting to the quietness of an empty house. Having uninterrupted time to attune to partner’s wishes.
Two Again
Marriage Stages
At the heart of this process is learning how to truly communicate. Together, we’ll practice basic communication skills, focusing on how to express needs and feelings in a way your partner can understand. These tools don’t just help you talk—they help you connect.
We’ll also dive into the anatomy of your conflicts, uncovering the root causes and creating strategies to reduce tension and heal old wounds. Using evidence-based methods like the Gottman Method, I’ll guide you through practical tools to strengthen your marriage in areas like:
- Friendship and emotional intimacy.
- Resolving conflicts with empathy and understanding.
- Building shared meaning and a vision for your relationship.
- Walking life’s path together.
- Consistent parenting practices.
Guiding Your Journey with Proven Methods
A Strength-Based Approach to Marriage Counseling
In addition, we’ll examine your roles and values, discovering new ways to align as a couple. Whether it’s creating shared goals or deepening your emotional connection, these tools will help you repair and rebuild a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.
- Send daily love bites
- Look at your partner when talking
- Sit together as often as possible
- Eat meals together
- Touch one another three times per day
- Share something about self, partner doesn’t know
- Affirm a positive each day
- Repair quickly when hurt has occurred
- Listen before talking
- Share feelings with spouse
- Use open questions
- Look for the good deeds
Marriage Tips
FAQs: Marriage Counseling at Pillars of Hope Counseling
Strengthening Your Bond Through Marriage Counseling
1. What is the success rate of marriage counseling?
The success of marriage counseling depends on the willingness of both partners to engage in the process. At Pillars of Hope Counseling, I use evidence-based approaches like the Gottman Method and Prepare and Enrich to equip couples with tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen their connection. Many couples who fully participate see lasting improvements in their relationship.
2. How much does marriage counseling cost?
Marriage counseling at Pillars of Hope Counseling ranges from $140 to $200 per session. Each session is tailored to your specific needs, providing a valuable investment in your relationship’s health and future.
3. What not to say to a marriage counselor?
Avoid using accusatory or blaming language, as it can create defensiveness and hinder progress. Instead, focus on sharing your feelings and concerns constructively. My role as a counselor is to create a safe, judgment-free environment where both partners feel heard and supported.
4. What type of therapist is best for marriage counseling?
A therapist experienced in marriage counseling techniques like the Gottman Method is ideal. At Pillars of Hope Counseling, I specialize in helping couples navigate challenges with compassion, effective strategies, and tailored support.
5. How many marriages end in divorce after marriage counseling?
The outcome of marriage counseling varies based on the couple’s commitment to the process. While not all marriages can be saved, counseling often helps couples make informed decisions about their future and equips them with tools for healthier interactions, regardless of the outcome.
6. What are the disadvantages of couples therapy?
Couples therapy requires emotional vulnerability and time, which can feel challenging. Additionally, it may bring unresolved issues to the surface, which requires patience and effort to address. I provide a supportive space to help couples navigate these difficulties constructively.
7. When should I quit marriage counseling?
Marriage counseling should be reconsidered if one or both partners are unwilling to engage openly, if there is an active addiction, if one partner is engaging in an affair they do not want to end, or if the environment feels unproductive. However, before quitting, I encourage discussing concerns with your counselor to adjust the approach and ensure the process aligns with your goals.
8. How long do most people do marriage counseling?
The length of marriage counseling varies, but many couples attend sessions for 8–12 weeks, depending on their specific needs and goals. At Pillars of Hope Counseling, we’ll create a timeline that works best for your relationship.
9. What percentage of couples break up after couples therapy?
While some couples decide to part ways, many use therapy to strengthen their relationship and prevent separation. At Pillars of Hope Counseling, the focus is on providing tools to rebuild trust and connection, helping couples make decisions that align with their needs and values.
